Lessons my father taught me

In honor of Father's Day I wanted to share twenty seven life lessons that my father taught me growing up. I am so blessed to have a wonderful relationship with my dad and I am honored to share a few life lessons with you. It's been a great twenty seven years of fun,laughter and memories! Looking forward to twenty seven more years with my number one buddy!
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  1. Always carry yourself with dignity 
  2. Don't look for people to validate you! KNOW WHO YOU ARE & WHOSE YOU ARE
  3. God has a plan for my life
  4. How to pick a watermelon & how to cut it! 
  5. His recipes are HIS recipes! (He doesn't share)
  6. He will make any and every sacrifice to be there for his children 
  7. Be honest
  8. Show compassion to EVERYONE 
  9. Nobody owes you anything 
  10. You can do it! Stay focused
  11. I can always depend on him for sound advice
  12. Be mindful of who is in your circle 
  13. As long as we have an understanding, thats what matters!
  14. You are the daughter of a king 
  15. You must ALWAYS reverence Gods house
  16. Develop a relationship with Christ
  17. You can always come home 
  18. You don't have to have life figured out you just need to have a plan! Take the step
  19. Christ is your SOURCE
  20. Pay your tithes
  21. Be faithful to the vision
  22. Friends come & go but FAMILY is forever 
  23. Your friends don't always have the answers 
  24. Growth is needed in every season of your life
  25. The importance of having a strong relationship with my father
  26. I didn't come with a manual, he did the best he could!! 
  27. If you fall, HE will always be there

Blogger Recognition Award

I would like to first say thank you to Hannah (Life as Mrs. Yolo) for nominating me for the Blogger Recognition Award! I am so honored and I forever grateful for this opportunity to shed a spotlight on my fellow bloggers! You can get a glimpse at Hannah’s journey here: http://www.mrsyolo.com/


In acceptance of the award, there are a few things recipients need to do.
1. I must thank the Blogger who nominated me and provide a link to their blog.
2. I must write a post to show the award.
3. I must write a brief story on how my blog started.
4. I must give two pieces of advice to new bloggers.
5. I must select 15 bloggers to pass this award on to.
6. I must comment on each of their blogs to let them know they have been nominated for this award and provide a link to this post.


How did your blog start?
I always had a love for writing and expressing what was on my heart but I never really took it seriously. I began researching different blogging platforms right before my 26th birthday and connected with a lady from my Women’s group at church. I wasn’t necessarily looking for fame, recognition or acceptance I just wanted to make an impact and I wanted to share my story. You can read more about my journey in my latest post Comparison Kills

What are two pieces of advice to new bloggers? 

First of all, I want to encourage every blogger to write their story from their perspective without fear or hesitation.  Know that not everyone is going to agree with everything you write and that is perfectly fine.  Be confident in every post you publish and in your vision for yourself and your blog.
Secondly, be confident in who you are! Never compare you progress or lack thereof to another person or blog. Surround yourself with a positive, uplifting community of bloggers and know that you will find your way. Don’t worry about figuring out your niche or finding the perfect template just write, stay focused and be confident! You have an amazing gift and the world is waiting on you!

Now to the moment you all have been waiting for! Below are my nominations for the Blogger Recognition Award! Congratulations!!!

http://www.mrspenningtonforyourthoughts.com/

http://www.tinychefkitchen.com/blog

https://balancefitnessonline.wixsite.com/home

http://kindofadulting.com/

https://www.theprocrastinatingpoet.com/

http://www.eazynazy.com/

http://navigatingadulthood.com/

https://brightsidebritt.com/

http://www.thelovelywho.com/

http://www.firepluswife.com/

http://www.peacockscanfly.com/

http://www.kimbsmith.com/blog

http://withlovefrom.me/

https://asilverlinedlife.com/about/

Behind The Highlight Reel

I finally scheduled my photoshoot, I had my outfit picked out and three pairs of shoes because honestly who wants to walk in the park with peep toe, stilettoes? My photographer was absolutely wonderful, Jenny Garrett handled the session with such care and professionalism.
She asked if I had an idea of what I wanted my photos to look like and to be honest I just wanted my photos to turn out good. My day was already going in the wrong direction I was having a bad hair day, I was running late to the session and I didn’t have enough time to get my nails painted. With everything going on I was just happy to be completing something that day. We started our session on this amazing bridge and went on towards a gazebo. What most people didn’t get to see was the constant dodging of the goose droppings and the runners getting in our shots.
Jenny Garrett Photography 
Jenny and I just kept going, we had a vision in mind and we wanted to get some great shots.  My favorite pictures just happened to be the ones where there was bird poop on the beam. I know, I know you are asking why someone didn’t catch that. How did you guys miss that? Why wasn’t it edited out? To be completely honest we didn’t notice the bird poop, we were too busy ensuring that Jenny didn’t step in anything and wasn’t being attacked by critters (she was literally standing in the weirdest locations-determined to get the shots). Once I received the edited photos I picked out my favorite ones and began posting them all over social media. It wasn’t until a few days later that I realized I was sitting right next to this bird poop and it was noticeable (well at least to me it was).
And it dawned on me, how often do we only project or post the good photos; the ones we like the best failing to realize that our highlight reel is just that, a highlight reel. It doesn’t give a real glimpse at what took place behind the scenes. When it comes to our lives we tend to make the same approach, we cover up the things that we don’t want others to see. We hide behind our jobs, friends, vacation or etc. and we only talk about the good moments.  I’m not saying that we should blast our personal struggles or issues to the world but we need to check our highlight reels.  We need to be mindful that the highlight reel doesn’t change what’s really going on behind the scenes. Once the camera is put away, once our phone battery dies real life is waiting right there with all its issues and trials. I struggled for years with comparing my life to what I saw on social media failing to realize that I am only seeing what they want me to see.
Jenny Garrett Photography 
I don’t see the screaming toddler in the background, the car with the flat tire on the side of the highway or the night before where they laid in bed wondering “What’s next?” I didn’t see their behind the scenes I saw their favorite selfie after 25 retakes. The struggle became so intense that I ended up having to take a break from my personal social media pages and had to focus on my behind the scenes. I had to understand that although life wasn’t going the way that I planned it was all apart of Gods’ plan.  I was living the life he wanted me to live and I was experiencing the behind the scenes moments that he had predestined before I even entered the world. This was his plan all along and here I am basically saying that my behind the scenes wasn’t “highlight reel worthy.” And even with an ungrateful heart and a bottle of emotions I began to trust that my behind the scenes was so much more meaningful than my highlight reel. My rough day meant so much more than the photoshoot that took place, my bad hair day couldn’t compare to the amazing testimony I was able to hear from my photographer.
My behind the scene moments are worthy of the highlight reel and Instagram posts. It’s up to me to share it!
So click the “post” button and keep it moving. Likes or dislikes, hearts or thumbs up, comments or not keep posting. Keep living, keep striving and know that your behind the scene moments will be the greatest moment of your life!